An interview with Liz
about teletherapy with couples

My partner Tom thought that an interview with me would be a great idea, and I thought, “Why not?” Here it is! Thanks Tom. Tom: So you’ve done teletherapy with couples a few times now. Liz: 50 or 60. Tom: How is it different? Liz: Obviously we are not in the same room. We are…

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Feeling unsettled – a reflection

Spring is here. The cherry trees are blooming and filling the air with their sweet sweet scent. The sky is blue blue blue and the mountains are clean and white and sharp against the sky. I walk along the solid grey tarmac of the road with spring springing all about feeling unsettled. There is an…

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To those that are grieving
this holiday season

To those that are grieving this holiday season, I’m thinking about you right now. I want you to know that I am with you in spirit as you navigate this difficult time of the holidays. I get it. I get your pain. Of course your heart is feeling black and constricted, you have suffered a…

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Focusing on the “pair” in “repair”

A new couple, Anna and Thomas,* is in my office, sitting as far away from each other as they can on the couch. Anna is silently crying as she wads a piece of Kleenex between her fingers. Her husband Thomas is talking about an escalated argument they’d had that morning. “I hate it when she…

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It begins with a secret

It begins with a secret. You start to think that you are unhappy in your relationship, and you keep that knowledge close to your private heart. You are unhappy in your relationship, and you keep getting proof of it. Your partner just isn’t meeting your needs. You’re unhappy. Look – there they go again, doing…

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On setting boundaries

 I found a turtle up on the hill behind my house the other day and it made sense. My talk with many of my clients recently had been around boundaries, you see, so it made total sense that I would happen to find a turtle. At least that’s what I told myself as I walked…

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A Valentine’s Day tale

Once upon a time there was a couple. Let’s call them Andrea and John. They fell in love after meeting online. They had both had previous relationships that hadn’t worked out, and had been looking for each other. As soon as they met, it felt right, even fated. Andrea appreciated the obvious cherishing coming from…

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I hear you. I see you. I am here for you.

I hear you. I see you. I am here for you. Do you long to hear those words from your partner? Maybe you haven’t truly heard them in a long time. Maybe they have gotten covered up by all the stuff that couples have to juggle these days – children, household tasks, jobs, aging parents,…

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The gifts my clients give me

You may not realize this, but every time you come in to see me, you give me a gift. I have quite a collection of them now.  Let me open a few with you so you can see some of their contents. Here’s a long flat box I’m pulling from the bottom of the stack.…

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